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Here’s The Thing…Lupus the Great Imitator

**Since this post was written (March 2012) there have been some changes to the podcast roster and time. Jules and I now host Chronic (Illness) Chronicles on Saturday Mornings at 8am PST/ 11am EST. We start 2013 with a new episode on Saturday January 5 and I hope you will join us!**

Merry Holidays and Happy New Year! ~dk

For this week’s Chronic Chronicles podcast, Jules, Gini and I decided to write posts about each other and our illness. We are trying to envision life with their chronic qualifier {i.e., disease}. I am writing about Jules and Lupus and we will be discussing all of this as our main topic on Friday at *12N PST/ 3pm EST*. 

I haven’t known Jules for very long, we first connected when I responded to her “ad” for a Crohn’s writer for What The Jules. We corresponded mainly by email and I was a little intimidated, ok very intimidated. She had a great site, many followers and a style of patient advocacy that I hadn’t seen before; snarky, adult and a confident “get on with it or get over it” attitude that is so refreshing to see in the chronically awesome world. Basically, she won’t take a lot of crap and she’s kind of a badass. I wanted to be like that and to grow my blog and website,  all the while staying true to myself. She is a leader in our community and I respected her, so I wanted her to like my writing. I asked her what she wanted me to write about and she gave me free reign to choose my own topics, as long I didn’t use the words, “irregardless and anyways”. Um… not a problem!

Now I’ve gotten to know her better, she and I talk everyday and I’ve gotten to know her and what she is fighting/living with everyday. She battles for and against her body every day. She reminds me of R.J. MacReady from John Carpenter’s The Thing , MacReady {Kurt Russell} has a natural leadership ability and is friends with everyone on the crew of  an Antartica science station. He wears a sombrero to work and he has great hair, if he shaved his beard I probably couldn’t tell him apart from Jules. He also fights an alien that has the special ability to kill an organism and camouflage itself as the organism, this is how it breeds. MacReady is in a life and death battle with an external enemy that mimics it’s prey. Jules is locked in an internal battle with Lupus, an autoimmune disease that is also known as “The Great Imitator” because it can resemble so many other diseases. It’s not just that they fight a similar foe it’s how they fight that matters to me.

Jules is one tough cookie. She works on her website all the time, she keeps up with so many people on social media and she doesn’t pitch a bitch about her pain or her suffering. She uses them to convey what we as Chronically Awesome people can do. I’ve talked to her when she was in ridiculous pain because the Lupus has jacked up her kidneys so bad. I’ve seen her patch up her feet because the nerves in her extremities were causing so much pain. I’ve texted her at Disney Land where she was standing in line, with her cane, ready to ride the rides even though she was having a bad day. I only know about these occurances because I’ve witnessed them in some way or other: I know about the kidneys because she sounded like she was in pain, her feet because she was nonchalantly patching them up on a hangout while I happened to be paying attention and Disney because I was actively chatting with her and asked how she was doing. She doesn’t complain, she clears a path to her life and does her best to avoid the clutter that is chronic illness. She puts on a brave face and fights a disease that can be mistaken as Chronic Nephritis, Diabetic Neuropathy and Rheumatoid Arthritis, but is actually Lupus trying to take over her body. Lupus is so complicated that Dr. House can’t even nail a diagnosis. She puts on a brave face and soldiers on, just look at her FB, Twitter, G+ profiles and website to see how many people she inspires. MacReady fights the big fight and won’t take whining from anyone, he does what needs to be done, no matter how scary the task. You can see in the movie that he is terrified, his eyes are wild at times, but he always does what’s he can to save his colleagues and humanity.

Jules and MacReady are a lot alike (she faces Lupus and kicks its ass, he fights the Thing for days and kicks it’s ass), but they have one key difference. MacReady fights and wins and waits to die. Jules fights and wins and wakes up to fight another day, every single day and she does it with a positive attitude and usually while wearing fantastic shoes. She fights constant fatigue and fevers and headaches, oh my. Yet she’s still there to maintain and build a website, a blog, a podcast, a marriage, a relationship with her daughter, her friendships AND start her new business! Most people can’t do all that healthy and she does it every day! There is a dirty question that we Chronically Awesome people are asked a lot, “How do you keep going?” or “How do you get through it?”, the answer is usually, “I just do, like with anything else.”‘. Jules does “it” with panache and gusto, two words that aren’t normally associated with Lupus.

I’m very lucky to have Jules as one of my very best friends and I feel like I’ve known her forever even though it has only been a few short months. We inspire and support each other and as much as we chit chat back and forth, more than 2,000 miles apart, we rarely talk about our illnesses except when we are working on podcast prep. We try to keep to a no whine zone in real life and expect it of each other. Jules would beat The Thing and be ready for the next challenge, while MacReady was still trying to work the flame thrower. I’d bet on Team Jules.

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  1. Cary Gossett said,

    Very well written and The Thing analogy is excellent and one of my fav movies. We know well the inscrutable difficulty in fighting an internal enemy like the Thing, and sometimes I feel like I look like one of those monsters! Yes, Jules is Awesome and would only choose another Awesome one to work with, meaning: You Are Awesome!

    I just discovered your blog today and will enjoy a look around. Keep up the fine writing — it’s clear you have much writer’s talent.

    Best,
    Cary

  2. Cameron Von St. James said,

    Hi,

    I have a quick question about your blog, would you mind emailing me when you get a chance?

    Thanks,

    Cameron


    • Sure what’s your email address or you can direct message me on twitter @healthier_stay .


  3. Great post. My sister has lupus (what are the odds that we’d both have a chronic illness?) It has enabled her to be one of my biggest, most understanding supporters. I can only hope that I give as much to her as she gives to me. Your friendship with Jules sounds similar. Lucky and wonderful! I love this: “She doesn’t complain, she clears a path to her life and does her best to avoid the clutter that is chronic illness”. You definitely have a way with words. – M


    • Thank you so much, that’s twice now that you have made me blush.
      I hope you and your sister both know how much you mean to each other. As much as we don’t want someone we love to be sick, it can be comforting to know that they understand.


  4. For sure… and… it took me a while to understand my sister’s value… we had years where we weren’t very close, even though we always loved each other. I’m beyond grateful that I “get it” now. Making up for lost time!


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